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Posted by: Raineshower Mar 9 2005, 06:47 PM

QUOTE I will be attending my first lesbian wedding. I am looking forward to it. While it is officially called a committment ceremony, I will consider it a marriage. The two girls are both as sweet as can be and beautiful. They have been together for over 4 years now. I know them from work. I'm a little anxious about going. Well...you know. I've never been to one before. I don't know what to expect. I'm afraid I'll verbally say something wrong having to do with a "bride and groom" rather than a "bride and bride". Anyone here been to one?

Posted by: NIGHTFLIGHT Mar 9 2005, 07:33 PM

I've been to one. The food was great!

Posted by: Mo Biggsley Mar 9 2005, 07:42 PM

I hear it's a great place to pick up on chicks . . . . . . if you're a chick.

Posted by: nivek Mar 9 2005, 07:51 PM

Raine, Go, be yourself, have fun, kick back, enjoy the ceremony... Gonna suspect the ladies have invited those they trust and care for. Not much upsets an outed couple. Sure any detractors have had everything nasty to say to or about them prior.. It wouldn't be too out of line to ask one of them what protocol they plan on using when referring to themselves after their ceremony... n

Posted by: JP1283 Mar 9 2005, 08:43 PM

It won't be a big deal. Just refer to them as spouses.

Posted by: Fweethawt Mar 9 2005, 08:53 PM

QUOTE (NIGHTFLIGHT @ Mar 9 2005, 10:33 PM) I've been to one. The food was great! Let me guess... Tacos?

Posted by: Reach Mar 10 2005, 04:49 AM

QUOTE (JP1283 @ Mar 9 2005, 08:43 PM) It won't be a big deal. Just refer to them as spouses. Some prefer the term, partner.

Posted by: The Acid Washed Messiah Mar 10 2005, 06:41 AM

I call my married lesbian friends "Anne" and "Susan," actually. I've found it works well.

Posted by: quicksand Mar 10 2005, 06:48 AM

I've been to one and it was great. No biggie. It was one of my ex-bosses and her girlfriend. Originally my bosses-g/f family wasn't going to come, they were dead against it. But they came and it was pretty moving to see the families come together. And the food was good too. I wasn't able to get any play myself, I was already in the middle of a long term relationship. But go have fun! Take a date.

Posted by: anony~mouse Mar 10 2005, 07:19 AM

I've never been to one myself. I agree with nivek, though: "out" couples aren't that sensitive and usually have a good sense of humor regarding other people's discomfort around them. If you want to know whether to call them "partners" or "spouses" or "wives" or whatever, you'll probably get some hints from the ceremony itself. (i.e., "you may now kiss the..." "I now pronounce you...") This reminds me of a funny joke I once read: "We've gone from 'the love that dare not speak its name' to the love that doesn't know its name!"

Posted by: I Broke Free Mar 10 2005, 09:16 AM

QUOTE (anony~mouse @ Mar 10 2005, 10:19 AM) This reminds me of a funny joke I once read: "We've gone from 'the love that dare not speak its name' to the love that doesn't know its name!" Wonderful!! I never heard that one before. As one person said, most gay and lesbian couples understand the confusion right now regarding what term to use and won't be offended if you stumble a little. Just ask them what term they prefer. It is not a stupid question at all. I make sure to introduce my partner as my "partner" right away with new people so that they will be more comfortable about how to address him later. The term "partner" for me is just the "Least Objectionable Term" to use. I don't really find it totally appropriate, but I can't think of anything better.

Posted by: Raineshower Mar 10 2005, 09:18 AM

When I saw this I started to wonder if they would have something similar. It's um.....cute. Cake Topper

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