In contrast, the good feelings more than compensated for the little bit of pain.
Lloyd said it; take it slow, be wet. Add lube (saliva is the most handy) and keep the moisture level high and it will be all pleasure.
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| Posted by: FlybyStardancer Mar 7 2005, 04:45 PM |
| As I've said in another thread here, I'm a virgin and plan to stay that way for a while. However, that doesn't stop me from thinking about 'the deed'. Anyways, I asked one of my good RL friends about her first time, and her response/advice has me a bit freaked out, so I wanna put it into perspective. Basically... I wanna know what other women hear have to say about their first times. Good? Bad? Very painful? Not really painful? etc. |
| Posted by: michelle Mar 7 2005, 05:26 PM |
| My first time was very special and not painful. |
| Posted by: phoenix Mar 7 2005, 05:30 PM |
| my first time didn't hurt at all. |
| Posted by: GreyGirl Mar 7 2005, 06:19 PM |
| My first time hurt a bit, but really only because the guy in question apparently thought foreplay was something you do on a golf course. My hymen was already long gone. My second time was absolutely spectacular because it was with someone who knew I was inexperienced and who loved me and wanted me to enjoy it. It all depends on the circumstances. If you're with someone you really care about, and you don't rush it, it'll be great. |
| Posted by: FlybyStardancer Mar 7 2005, 09:01 PM |
| Thanks for sharing! Yeah, what I had heard was that lots of foreplay was needed, but even then it would still hurt. And since I tend to be a wimp when it comes to pain... You can tell how I'd be freaked out by that. This puts me more at ease now... After all, basing something off of one person's experience (especially on a once-in-a-lifetime thing [first time in this case]) doesn't give a totally accurate idea of what happens... |
| Posted by: GreyGirl Mar 7 2005, 09:21 PM | ||
If you're worried about the pain, you can break your hymen yourself before you ever have sex. Assuming you still have it. Mine got broken when I was 10, when I fell out of a tree. My gynecologist suggested that I insert a couple of fingers every day and gently stretch myself so my vagina wouldn't be uncharted territory when I did have sex. It's good advice. |
| Posted by: MalaInSe Mar 7 2005, 09:47 PM | ||
That is good advice. My first time and several after were painful because my hymen was particularly tough. The doc gave me the same advice. |
| Posted by: LloydDobler Mar 7 2005, 10:08 PM |
| My ex wife refused to masturbate or stretch herself out at all, just a hangup she had. Even though her hymen had been broken previously by a clumsy boyfriend trying to finger her, our first two weeks of sex were pretty painful (for her), no matter what we used as lube, or how much foreplay we did. Finally after a while we figured it out, exactly how we should start and exactly how slow we should go, and from that point on everything was fine. Part of the problem was birth control pills, they reduced her sex drive so she didn't produce a lot of her own lubrication either. Bottom line, make sure it's very slippery and if it hurts tell the dude to back out and start over. If he has to come into you one millimeter at a time, so be it. |
| Posted by: Reach Mar 8 2005, 06:10 AM |
| It hurt a little, as the hymen tore, but nothing more than the equivalent of falling down and skinning a knee a bit. There, there, that wasn't so bad, now, was it? In contrast, the good feelings more than compensated for the little bit of pain. Lloyd said it; take it slow, be wet. Add lube (saliva is the most handy) and keep the moisture level high and it will be all pleasure. |
| Posted by: non conformist Mar 8 2005, 06:40 AM |
| My first time sucked....glad I stuck with it, though |
| Posted by: quicksand Mar 8 2005, 07:44 AM |
| Choose a patient guy first of all, and talk to them about it. Find out his kinks and share yours. Are they a foreplay kinda guy, or is he a rush through the doors to get the first seat at the movie never minding the popcorn, the soda, and the JuJu Bees kinda guy? I think you will the sex way better that way. And if he won't go down on you, find someone else. |
| Posted by: Reach Mar 8 2005, 07:48 AM | ||
Yes. Excellent advice, Quick. All of it. And turnabout is fair play. |
| Posted by: quicksand Mar 8 2005, 09:34 AM | ||||
It really should be – and not just sex. But brasstacks here... of course!  |
| Posted by: woodsmoke Mar 8 2005, 10:49 AM | ||
I've come to the dismal conclusion that there are, in fact, at least two living human women who are being completely and repulsively honest when they state that they don't masturbate. Unfortunately, it seems, we were the poor saps who had the misfortune of finding them. |
| Posted by: Reach Mar 8 2005, 11:31 AM | ||
Everybody's loss. |
| Posted by: GreyGirl Mar 8 2005, 05:07 PM | ||
There's a lot more than two, and I feel very, very sorry for them. I can't even imagine being so ashamed of my own body that I would think it was bad or disgusting to touch it. On the other side of the spectrum, I'm going to need quite a bit of therapy just to deal with the day several years ago when my mom, my sister and I all admitted to each other that we all insist on having a hand-held shower massage rather than one that attaches to the wall and stays there for the same reason. And that reason has nothing to do with getting all the shampoo out of our hair. |
| Posted by: FlybyStardancer Mar 8 2005, 06:27 PM | ||
Thanks for the advice! ^_^
LOL! Imagine that... |